Ever since I was in High School my happiness always depended on someone else. If they weren't happy, I wasn't happy. I'd do anything and everything in my power to make sure he was happy.
When me and my ex broke up, I felt like my whole life went downhill (and I'm not being dramatic). How does someone that I love with everything I have in me, that says he loves me the same- just up and leave???
Days, weeks, and months went by and I still felt hopeless. I was literally convinced that things weren't going to get better. I craved his presence, his "love". I needed him for me to be happy and I didn't know how to do that on my own. One day I was at my breaking point so I sat and talked to God.
I prayed, I begged, I screamed at the top of my lungs on my knees, I would legit do whatever it takes to feel normal again. I'd do anything to feel better, to not have such a heavy heart, to smile again and to finally be at peace. The next day I saw a quote that said, "When your self-love goes up you'll stop trying to get validation and comfort from people that don't matter. It'll make you feel more deserving of the good things in life."
So that's what I started doing, I started loving Jessica Ruiz. I started hanging out with great people, I started going out. I treated myself to a shopping spree for the first time in four years.
I looked up advice that helped me and I want to share some of that with y'all:
Give yourself some credit
Stop second guessing yourself
Start believing in yourself
Encourage yourself to be positive
Protect yourself: bring the right people into your life
Forgive yourself: accept your humanness. You are not perfect and that's okay.
~ Life becomes simpler when you learn how to love yourself. You won't beat yourself up over temporary setbacks.
It gets better. It gets easier. You'll be okay. 🌹